I have absolutely no problem with the cross dressing thing, as most anime men are so androginous anyway. I’m not gay, but I’d do all sorts of nasty things with Shun from “Here is Greenwood”. (the anime and manga) Mind you, girls cross dressing as guys is always cuter - in my opinion - so long as they actually pull it off and don’t have their huge breasts bursting through their shirts and ruining the illusion.
Like someone else said, the sex scenes tend to have a much better near-lesbian quality to them which is certainly something I’m always happy to see. I would love to see more English subbed games with lesbian characters … especially female protagonists with potential lesbian storylines.
I think the initial rejection many guys feel when they consider the genre comes from that horror born in middle school and high school … the fable of the guy who brought a girl home for sex only to discover she was more than she seemed … ahem. Me, I think if the guy had pulled off the glamour really well, and he was shaved, I could probably overlook it … there are things I still wouldn’t do - for certain - but if (s)he can pull off the “I’m just a girl with a penis” vibe well enough … that’s what prostates are for. (Though, unfortunately I think that level of glamour is very rare, almost exclusively the property of anime and manga type stories … still, if I had the chance to stumble upon Shun Kisaragi, I probably wouldn’t complain too much. [yeah, I’ve got a thing for the character])