Life is a river… Options:
Stay on the bank, watch others live life and see another viewpoint upon it.
Push your canoe in and navigate the world as best as possible, avoiding and fighting all obstructions and hidden dangers…
Dive in and let yourself be at the mercy of the flow…
Hmm…for my two cents on this…
Life is for the living. Living in the past is like trying to paddle upstream. Living on the bank may allow for perspective and rest but also allows precious time to drift by. Having no control upon ones life lets fate rule which can be most cruel.
Try this advice instead of a direction: Come to terms with your past. Live in the present (for you are guaranteed only it.) Plan for the future and work toward the best path to follow.