Interesting topic to bring up. I think many would have trouble admitting such a thing in such a public place as this. Anyways, as for me (since I have no problem talking about this), I was in an on again off again relationship with someone for about five years when I was in my teens that even got physical for a brief amount of time. It officially ended when I was around 18 in a rather unpleasant manner. After that I occasional heard from her regarding stuff I would have rather not known (such as her moving in with some guy). The last time I heard from her was when she invited me to her wedding. She called me and said she realizes that we ended on rather bad terms, but that she wanted me to attend. Still having quite a bit of bitterness, I stiffly got through the call and childishly didnât call her back to let her know one way or the other. For quite some time I simply referred to her as âThe Wicked Bitch of the Westâ. Needless to say, that relationship affected me in quite a bad way for many years. Iâve slowly come to terms with it (and other issues in my life), and am even thinking of one of these days tracking her down and apologizing for my childish behavior regarding her wedding. While I am not actively looking to be in a relationship again right now (due to various factors in my life), if one begins in my life tomorrow I wouldnât turn away from it (though Iâm not sure I would know how to handle one properly given how long it has been, although on the other hand the time for introspection might give me an advantage). While I certainly enjoy my â2D womenâ, there really is no comparison to the real thing. You really have to experience it for yourself to understand.
OK I demand to see the picture bokmeow is talking about . thanks for sharing KM I suppose in good faith I as TC should share. well Ive never had a gf , in fact I ve never kissed a girl on the mouth or cheek. In college being a nerd can be cool and clique but not in middle school . In all my previous education I was foiled by jocks ; bitter -hell yes :x Also for some reason I always end up a friend. Also it seems most women where I live have religous mores. Bottom line Im about to surpass Keitaro
Urashima s record with no relationship in site. The glorious eroge however gives me the power to endure.
I apologize for my double post however I have a wretched character limit right now Iâd be eternally grateful if a mod/admin could combine these into one post or barring that not delete it.
In this world full of divorces left and right, itâs good to hear of someone like you OrcAttack. Thank you for sharing here. Anyways, on to the main point of this post.
Donât despair too much Lurker. I probably would be in a similar situation as you (even with me being eight years older than you right now according to your profile) if not for the fact that for some reason my ex-girlfriend was the one who approached me initially all those years ago. I too encountered the problem of always being looked at as the friend and never the romantic interest when I was actively looking for a relationship again a few years ago. Here are some brief bits of advice if you do want to try out a relationship with a female who isnât 2D. (I would appreciate feedback on these, especially from those with more success to their name than myself.)
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[]Have confidence in yourself. From my experience, women can detect insecurity from men from ten miles away.[/]
[]Show some interest, but not too much. Appearing clingy is a death sentence.[/]
[]Donât be afraid to talk to a woman you think is âway out of your leagueâ. Sometimes these women arenât approached much because men are intimidated by how good they look.[/]
[]Be yourself, but know when to keep your mouth shut. They donât need to know every single minute detail about you as soon as they meet you.[/]
[]As Kane Blueriver of âLost Universeâ says in the English dub, âIf you donât shoot, you canât score.â. You lose nothing when you try and donât succeed at asking someone out. The same canât be said for much of life, so take advantage of this fact.[/]
[]Donât be discouraged and give up trying to ask women out after your first (or second, third, fourth, etc.) try at asking someone out. Extenuating circumstances may exist.[/]
[]Humor is a wonderful tool. Use it. (This is part of why I have three versions of the âLooking for a Japanese Girlfriendâ shirts.)[/][/list]
Just want to add, that much like a job interview, appearances and first impressions goes a long way with the opposite sex.
Also, while itâs not a must, but being physically active in a sport or in a weight training program helps.
While the muscle between the eyeâs is the most important one to exercise, having a physically fit body does have its advantages.
Does being married for thirty years count? On the other hand, even tho it works pretty good for me, I wouldnât recommed matrimony to everyone. Itâs no substitute for fantasy.
i just started a relationship almost a year ago. although itâs my first one, everyday i read a certain columnist who deals with relationship issues, might be a good read:
Yeah, itâs Admiral Ackbar, this is the one Iâm more familiar with usually.
Whoa, not to artificially inflate the effectiveness of Peter Payneâs recruitment instrument or anything, but I actually picked up a Japanese girlfriend after she saw the shirt. Talk about a coinky-dink.
Thatâs precisely why I asked for feedback on what I said from those with more success than myself. On the other hand, you can look at it the way Thomas Alva Edison did for a different reason: I have not failed, Iâve just found 10,000 ways that wonât work.
No, you arenât the only female member of the board that is active. There is also papillon and Ojamajo_LimePie. In the past there were some other female members that came here as well that I came across when I did a search for something (however Iâm too lazy to try and find their board names).
As Shakespeare says , "whats done is done " so I try not to dwell on the past . what Im really looking for (and substitute eroge for) is a weak relationship based on sexual gratification . While it may be do to lack of commitment but I also have yet to find the complete package that to me would indicate bridal material . Any tips on how to find either might come in handy later