It isn’t really appearance— so much as it is “body”. Girls aren’t treasured for their mind— they are treasured for their body. At least, that’s what I “hear” when girls are talking. It’s all body and issues associated with their body. Guys really aren’t that focused on a girl’s body— yes, I hear that laughter, but its true. It is VERY important to us that you have a body, but unless it’s our fetish or kink, the exact shape or “closeness to perfection” of your body really doesn’t matter. To the regular guy, it really doesn’t matter to us if a girl we like has huge breast, or small ones. What does matter is that she is willing to let us look at them or play with them (rather than get mad at us and storm off and never talk to us again). It doesn’t matter to us if a girl has the prettiest face on the continent, or if she’s just got a nice face— but it is very important that she SHARES it with us, letting us look at it, and occassionally putting it up against us or very near us (snuggling, kissing, or talking quietly, etc).
Guys are really simple like that. We don’t think freckles ruins the attractiveness of your back— we think you screaming at us that we are insensitive butt-wipes because we left the toilet seat up DOES ruin your attractiveness (at least while you are yelling ). But to girls— girls knock each other down. Girls are constantly picking out the tiniest thing that no normal guy is ever going to notice on his own, and certainly isn’t going to care enough to NOT want to spend some time with her because she’s got a few freckles or a mole or because she doesn’t enounciate perfectly. What we guys care about is that you are SHARING yourself.
Professional porn pictures, like other professional modelling pictures, are tweeked (airbrushed and otherwise touched up)— so they set a standard most girls wouldn’t ever be able to meet— unless she too poses for pro pictures so she can get the same “help”. But since most won’t get that opportunity— well, having them, especially the very WORST of them like porn cease to exist or go away would be best. Less “measures” to try and measure up against or compete against.
Women dress for other women, and worry after their appearance really because of other women, not for us guys. We guys don’t care if you wear the same outfit down to the river this weekend that you wore last weekend. We just care that you are GOING with us down to the river, or that we will see you there and get to hang out together for a while. We don’t care if you’ve put on 10 pounds over the past year— we just care that you spent the last year getting together with us.
(Note: this, again, is talking about the “average” or “normal” guy. Some individuals do have particular obsessions or replusions, so in other words: it would matter to some guys that you have very large mammalries— or that you have very large feet, or you do NOT have freckles. Everyone is unique.)