well, look at this, i go away for two days to celebrate my one-year anniversary, and someone needs advice!!! grrrr
so i guess i am a little late on this, but maybe you would still appreciate a woman’s point of view, Fxho…
i think you probably freaked the girl out the first time you asked her to move with you… you didn’t specify how long you guys had been together before you asked her, but i am going to assume it wasn’t very long, at least not long enough for such a question to be considered ‘appropriate’ in some circles
you probably popped that question before she was sure in her mind how she felt about you (women can act much differently than they feel to keep up appearances), and thus, it always stuck in her mind as something ‘uncomfortable’ about you that she felt, and it probably grew over time…she was probably also hoping that her failure to answer would give you the hint that she didn’t want to move without being ‘rude’ (don’t ask me why women do such things, as i don’t get it either…i think honesty is the best choice)…when it came down to the wire (the dinner prior to moving) she probably said “i will think about it” in order to stop there from being a fight or a major disagreement until you left, when she figured it would be over with because you would be gone
i know i am really blunt…i hope i haven’t been so blunt as to hurt you, but this is the feelingi get from the situation based on what you told us…and feel better, there are many more women in this world! ::big hugs::